Are You A People Pleaser?

Galatians 1:10 NET “Am I now trying to gain the approval of people, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a slave of Christ!”

These are strong words. They show that a person cannot be a people pleaser and be a servant of Jesus Christ at the same time. It is impossible. Many appear to be serving Christ while they are only striving to prove themselves to others.

1 Thessalonians 2:4 NET “But just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we declare it, not to please people but God, who examines our hearts.”

There is a huge difference between those who are living to please God and those who seek to impress others. The Pharisees were the latter. Listen to what Jesus said to them:

Luke 16:15 KJV “And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God.”

People pleasers will always justify themselves or make themselves look good in the eyes of others. This is how they want to be perceived; as innocent, good, and righteous. They resent anyone showing them their faults and causing them to feel guilt. This goes against what they are striving so hard to achieve. Jesus told the Pharisees (who always wanted to look good and justified themselves) that this made them an abomination in God’s sight: “For that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God,” Jesus said. Wanting to be highly esteemed (or look so good) in the eyes of others is pride. And God hates pride:

Proverbs 8:13 NET “The fear of the Lord is to hate evil; I HATE ARROGANT PRIDE and the evil way and perverse utterances.”

Pride is the Devil’s mindset. And every high, lofty, and proud thing of men is an abomination in God’s sight.

PEOPLE PLEASERS ARE NOT TRUE BELIEVERS

John 5:44 NET “How can you believe, if you accept praise from one another and don’t seek the praise that comes from the only God?”

A people pleaser cannot truly believe in Jesus Christ. They are seeking human praise more than they are seeking, “the praise that comes from the only God.” He/she desperately wants to be seen by others as good, righteous, innocent, and worthy of respect. These people are Divas. They have a god complex that has not been checked. They have Satan’s mentality. They have been deceived by him to follow him instead of God. So many who claim to be religious and claim to be Christians are just like this.

HOW TO TELL IF THIS IS ME?

Are you quickly offended when others correct you? (Ecclesiastes 7:9) Be honest. Do you gloss over your faults (sins) to make them look not so bad? In other words, like the Pharisees of Jesus’ day, do you justify yourself? Do you show yourself to be right even when you’re wrong? Is it hard to admit when you’re wrong? Is it a rare thing for you to apologize to others when you know that you have wronged them? If you’ve answered an honest, “Yes,” to any of these questions there is good news for you:

WE CAN REPENT/CHANGE AND LIVE

Ecclesiastes 7:3 NET “Sorrow is better than laughter, because sober reflection is good for the heart.”

Psalm 51:17 KJV “The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.”

Proverbs 15:10 NIV “Stern discipline awaits anyone who leaves the path; the one who hates correction will die.”

If you’ve seen yourself in anything stated above the good news is we can repent and change. The person who can honestly say, “That’s me,” has hope, and can find God’s mercy. God accepts those who feel and show deep sorrow over their sins.

Proverbs 28:13 ESV “Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.”

But the person who sees himself in the mirror of God’s word then quickly goes away and forgets what he/she looks like is lost. They refuse to accept and admit they are wrong. (James 1:23-24) Let’s not be lost. Let God heal your heart. If we repent God promises:

Ezekiel 36:26 NET “I will give you a new heart, and I will put a new spirit within you. I will remove the heart of stone from your body and give you a heart of flesh.”

David prayed:

Psalms 51:10-11 KJV “Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me. 11 Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me.”

We should pray like David for a New heart and a Right spirit. David recognized that he was wrong. This is indicated by him asking God to give him a, “RIGHT SPIRIT.” Those who think they are already right (or righteous) will not pray like David did. They think they’ve already got it together. Hence they cannot be healed or saved. David touched on the matter truthfully: he knew he had an unclean heart and a wrong spirit. He analysed himself honestly. Hence he prayed earnestly to God for a clean heart and a right spirit. And God heard his prayer. Only God can remove a wrong spirit and an unclean heart.

Yes, David conducted himself like a Diva for a while. But he got up and repented. There’s a saying, “If you can look up you can get up.” But in order to look up one must recognize that he/she is down, instead of imagining that you’re so high, and now you’re looking down on others. Hmmmm. Back to David, God chastised his son. David accepted his discipline and kept living. May we learn from the great man David; a man after God’s own heart. (Acts 13:22) May we learn how to repent from pride and live.

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