Cursing Your Parents

Proverbs 20:20 KJV “Whoso CURSETH his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness.”


CURSETH : STRONG’S Definition, Strong’s Number H7043

“A primitive root; to be (causatively make) {light} literally ({swift } small 6 {sharp} etc.) or figuratively ({easy } trifling 6 {vile} etc.)” 

Brown-Driver-Briggs’ Definition

1. to be slight, be swift, be trifling, be of little account, be light

    * (Qal)

        1. to be slight, be abated (of water)

        2. to be swift

        3. to be trifling, be of little account

    * (Niphal)

        1. to be swift, show oneself swift

        2. to appear trifling, be too trifling, be insignificant

        3. to be lightly esteemed

    * (Piel)

        1. to make despicable

        2. to curse

    * (Pual) to be cursed

    * (Hiphil)

        1. to make light, lighten

        2. to treat with contempt, bring contempt or dishonour

    * (Pilpel)

        1. to shake

        2. to whet

    * (Hithpalpel) to shake oneself, be moved to and fro


As we can see cursing your parents means way more than just using curse words at them. Cursing our parents means treating them trifling, of little account, despicable, or disrespectfully. Here’s one of Merriam Webster’s definitions of the word, TRIFLING: “Lacking in significance or solid worth.” God says ANYONE who treats their parents in this way is cursing their parents. BUT THANK GOD THAT HE IS GRACIOUS.😊 HE IS WILLING TO FORGIVE US. SO LET US BE SMART AND REPENT if we are guilty of this sin. Whoever refuses to repent, ‘his/her lamp will be put out in obscure darkness,’ God says. To better understand what that means listen to this command:

Ephesians 6:2-3 NIV “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”

Honoring our parents God says has a promise: “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.” Hence doing the opposite has the opposite effect; things won’t go well for us, and we won’t enjoy long life on earth, but ‘our lamp will be put out in obscure darkness.’😳 I think we know what God is saying will happen to those who treat their parents disrespectfully. Can we afford not to honor our parents? Are we stronger than God?🤔


Matthew 6:14-15 CSB “For if you forgive others their offenses, your heavenly Father will forgive you as well. But if you don’t forgive others, your Father will not forgive your offenses.”

If you are a Christian you’ve heard this commandment many times. But how blessed we are if we obey it!😃 Can’t we see what’s really going on if we hold a grudge against our father or mother for anything? We’re not obeying God’s command to forgive. Wouldn’t you agree it isn’t worth throwing away our eternal life? Sadly, Satan has tricked many into doing just that. Oh he is very tricky. I had to deal with this myself years ago. I thought I had forgiven my mother for certain things in the past but God showed me I really hadn’t. The Holy Spirit let me know I needed to repent, or else.😳 Some wounds go pretty deep, I understand. But we must also understand that the wounds Jesus suffered for us on the cross went even deeper. The wounds he took on our behalf paid the price for our sins, and our parents sins too. 

We must also understand that God means what He says regarding forgiving others and honoring our parents. If we don’t forgive others we won’t be forgiven, period. Christ’s sacrifice won’t apply to us. And if we don’t honor our parents our future is very bleak, forever.🔥🥵 Obeying God’s command to forgive is the only way to avoid this. Forgiveness is a very basic commandment for a Christian. (Colossians 3:12-13) Honoring one’s parents we’re told is, “the FIRST commandment with a promise.”😊 (Ephesians 6:2-3)


Ecclesiastes 7:20 CSB “There is certainly no one righteous on the earth who does good and never sins.”

That includes our parents too. Unfortunately parents are not perfect. Neither are we. ALL HAVE SINNED and fall short of the glory of God the Bible says. (Romans 3:23-24) Why would anyone throw away their life and eternal life with God over this? Short answer: They have been deceived by Satan the Devil and their own evil desires the Bible says. (James 1:14-15 2 Corinthians 4:4) When I saw myself cursing my own mother I had to admit (confess) that I was being deceived by the Devil and my evil desires.🤔 It hurt when I saw it. I didn’t see it at first of course. I felt justified by my FEELINGS. I thought I was right. But my FEELINGS did not line up with God’s word. I was dead wrong:

Proverbs 14:12 CSB “There is a way that seems right to a person, but its end is the way to death.”

OH THANK GOD FOR HIS MERCY AND FOR FORGIVENESS OF SINS THROUGH JESUS CHRIST!!!😂 God’s rich mercy is for EVERYONE who wants it, for ANYONE who is willing to repent.😃

Please, don’t let the Devil drag you to hell over this. Repent and obey God if you know you have resentment in your heart towards your father, mother, or anyone. GOD WILL FORGIVE YOU! We all sin and mess up sometimes. God knows that you are not mistake free.😊 And neither are your parents.

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